Seventy percent of my clients are gay men. What happens when you grow up gay in a predominantly heterosexual society? Many things do, and sometimes coming to terms with it all takes work. How do we create deep and satisfying relationships with other men – whether husbands, lovers or friends? How do we develop strong self-esteem? How do we manage addictive or compulsive behaviors? What about HIV? That’s another aspect of gay male experience that is currently going through a period of rapid and enormous change, both medically and socially. What about gay marriage? Perhaps you are now married, which is wonderful and exciting, but how do you make the marriage work over the long term?